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In this episode of Fighting Anorexia, I talk about some of the many obstacles that we face in our recovery.
I share with you how I have dealt with many challenges along the way and what I have learned from these occurrences.
Some of my fears included:

– Simply Eating Dinner
– pride often presented an obstacle, what will others think?
– Perfectionism
– Not believing that I could ever like my body again
– negative thoughts and negative self-talk
– Being scared of life without my eating disorder because that is all I ever knew
– Being scared of getting to know your true self because all you know is your ed
– Being scared of not being liked by others anymore
– being terrified of totally losing control of myself and my body

And here are some ways of coping:

1. Make an emotional connection to how you will feel after having overcome these obstacles.

2. Tell yourself over and over again that these obstacles are merely tests to see how strong you really are and how committed to recovery you are.
These challenges are horrible, they are hard, but if you keep trying and keep finding ways of working on what needs to be changed, you can do it. I believe in you.

3. Overcoming an obstacle means that you are one step closer to health.

4. Sometimes you just have to be very disciplined.
For example, when you feel like you are way too big already and you still have to eat dinner.

5. A positive attitude helps tremendously and it reduces the size of the problem automatically.

6. Staying inspired throughout your recovery process is very important too. Continue to read stories, autobiographies, listen to recovery music, poems etc. Surround yourself with positive people who have survived this illness.

And here are more specific answers to some of our challenges:

1. How will my life look like without an eating disorder? will I be able to handle this change?
You will get used to your life without an Eating Disorder.
You have to trust those who tell you that it will get better and that you will be able to handle it.

I promise you, it will get better and eventually you won’t even remember your everyday life with your eating disorder.

2. How can I cope with feelings?
Most of us have developed an eating disorder to control our emotions and block out things in our life that we cannot deal with at the moment.
We can use distractions at first. Maybe writing helps you? Maybe you can talk to a friend? Maybe you can scream into a pillow? Maybe you can do kickboxing to get rid of anger.
Eventually you will learn how to deal with your emotions and they won’t be so scary anymore.

3. What if I don’t have coping skills other than my ED yet?
You can develop them and after a while, these skills will become your new go-to coping skills.

4. Will I lose control over my body?
No matter what it seems like, your eating disorder is controlling you and not the other way around. So, you don’t have control over your weight or your body. You will be able to control your body – in a GOOD and healthy way.

5. What if I cannot stop the negative self-talk?
Pay attention to your Eating Disorder thoughts, your emotions and your behaviors.
You will get better at this over time and then you can start talking back and telling yourself that you are worthy, that you are wonderful, beautiful, one of a kind, a master piece, allowed to eat and enjoy life.

6. I want my recovery to be perfect.
Nobody’s recovery is perfect. We ALL struggle.
Besides, there IS no perfect recovery.

7. Will others still like me without my eating disorder?
Your friends will see how much more energy you have and that you can be a much better friend without your eating disorder.

8. Who am I without my eating disorder?
You are a wonderful, beautiful person. You will have so much more freedom without your eating disorder and you will have the chance of getting to know your true self.

9. But will society accept me if I am not a skeleton anymore?
Maybe, maybe not. But your friends and your family will. And that is all that matters, right?

10. I am all alone. I don’t know whom to turn to or what to do when I feel like I cannot eat dinner or I feel like I have gained way too much or I feel like I just cannot cope with all these feelings.
The best thing would of course be to talk to your therapist, but also group therapy sessions help a lot and I would suggest you search for a mentor. Someone who knows what you are going through and who is there for you and helps you.

A wonderful resource is Mentor Connect.

 

“Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but in getting up every time we do.”

~Confucius~

Now, which obstacles do you or did you face?
Do you have more examples and ideas on how to overcome these challenges? Please share them with us!

Thank you from the bottom of my heart for listening to this episode!

If you would like to leave me some feedback, you can mail it to feedback@fightinganorexia.com

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In this episode of Fighting Anorexia, I talk about how important eating is in your recovery.

Eating IS medicine and we cannot heal without eating regularly!

Regularity & Consistency: I read June Alexander’s book a girl called tim and she reiterates that one thing that is absolutely essential for her and has been her strongest pillar in recovery is the fact that she eats 3 meals and 3 snacks!

Warm meals are very important!

Create an eating plan: you don’t have to think of a specific meal but think of ingredients (with every meal you should cover all 3 food groups: vegetables/fruit, protein, carbs,) the size of a portion, then go shopping and buy what is on your shopping list. Don’t go to the store hungry though as this will make you prone for buying food that might be dangerous for you (binging).

I have learnt that I don’t strive on eating plans, but I have my fixed times of eating.

I strive on routines, that is how I am built. For me, it is most helpful and doable to eat almost the same thing every day. I am not ready yet to mix it up. And that is ok. As long as I am eating, it is fine to stick with what you feel is safest for you right now.

Do a reality check every week. Do you notice you skip a snack or you eat certain food untouched?

Here are some tips for those who are already a bit further progressed in their recovery:

The Black List deserves its own episode. The Black list comprises all food that you don’t allow yourself to eat (just yet). Once you have written down everything that you still label as bad food, you can slowly (VERY slowly) start incorporating it in your meal plan.

Buffets – Think of what a regular portion looks like. Take 1 plate and put something of all 3 food groups on there. If you feel like it, eat dessert (just like you might already do it at home).
You will always be able to eat what is presented to you on this day, at this buffet, again. So, don’t panic that you cannot eat everything.

Restaurants– look up the menu online and already know what you will order. Planning is key here.

 

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