Let me explain…
My sister has always, always been my biggest rock, my soul mate and the girl I looked up to despite her being three years younger than me. I love her drive, her confidence, her ability to embrace life in ways I thought I never could. Spending the weekend with her has shown me yet again how wonderful she is. She was there in the darkest hours of my life, never ever turning against me, but trying to help me in every way she could. I love her to pieces and hope that one day I will be at least half as compassionate, loving and kind as she is.
My husband is a role model when it comes to changing your relationship with food and your body. You see, when I met my husband, he was a very, very extreme eater as well. He didn’t touch carbs, had a body of a man half his age, worked out radically and basically drove me (unwillingly, of course) to go even deeper into my anorexic behaviors. However, once I opened up to him and started telling him how desperate I was to get help, he changed his habits in order to help me get out of that hell.
I will forever be grateful to him for doing that for me and showing that yes, it is possible to change and it is OK to eat whatever you like without being judged.
Portia de Rossi is a role model because she was the one who opened my eyes that I needed help. I read her book in the fall of 2010, sobbing all the way through. I could relate to almost everything she was saying and it was as if she was reading my mind. Her story gave me hope and it was then that I knew for the very first time that I had a very serious illness and needed to make a change.
It’s important to have role models in your life. It’s important to let yourself be inspired. You won’t be able to move forward in recovery unless you see that somebody else has already achieved whatever it is you are yearning to do.
How about you? Do you have role models too?