026 Fighting Anorexia – Believe in Yourself

by Anne-Sophie

in Podcast


Believing in yourself is hard, especially after times of setbacks.
I have noticed that I stopped challenging myself. Not only did I stop going to my cooking group, but I also stopped working on my black list.

Have I grown too comfortable? No, I have realized that I have doubted myself again in the past few months. Can I really recover fully? After the vacation disaster, will there ever be a totally free me?

Yes, I am very optimistic about it but I need a few more pillars to start believing in myself again to be able to move forward.

So, today I present you a few ways on how to start believing in yourself, your abilities and how to become more confident.

  1. Start from within. Change your thoughts and words.
    Your thoughts should be your best friend and your words should reflect your positive attitude.
  2. Set goals
    If full recovery were guaranteed, how would I be able to reach this goal? Which are the different milestones I have to reach in order to get to the place of freedom? How will I be able to achieve the smaller steps?
  3. See it in your mind first
    Envision your life as a healthy person, as someone who is confident and believes in herself. How does this life look like exactly? How will you feel? How will you behave? How will you interact with others?
    The more details you see the more your mind will believe that it is already a reality.
  4. Remember what you’re good at! What are your strengths? And, yes, you are good at a lot of things too!
    Reminding yourself that you do have strength will be one more step towards believing in yourself.
  5. Try to do it even when you think you cannot
    Our mind is always trying to sabotage us. So, try to take the necessary steps toward your goal today and don´t let your thoughts keep you from even trying.
  6. Act Confident. Be confident.
    If you believe you can be confident, you will be. If you believe you can believe in yourself completely, you will.
  7. Remember that everyone has self-doubts and lack of confidence from time to time. You are not alone with these feelings.
  8. Think of the past: What did you do right?
    Think of all the things you have already done that are super important on your way towards belief in yourself. Write them down. Now, you can try to use them in order to motivate you to take the next steps.
  9. Messing up is OK. It can even be helpful. Having setbacks won´t even matter when seen as part of the bigger picture, which is your life.
  10. Walk tall!
    You will feel much more confident immediately and this will help you to believe in yourself.
  11. Is there proof for my thoughts?
    List every one of those things you really believe about yourself and your abilities. Look at each assumption and examine it. Ask yourself, “Is this true? What is the proof?” Most of the time, you will have to answer “No”. This will help you reduce your list of negative thoughts and will give you a the right to believe in yourself.
  12. Recognize The Possibilities
    There are so many possibilities for you out there.
    Think grand and start listing everything you could do in your life. Go crazy. Believe in yourself and the ability to achieve these goals.
  13. Solve problems
    Start solving problems. The more you perfect this skill the more you will start to believe in yourself and in your abilities.
    There is a solution to every problem.
  14. You can be confident even if you are not perfect!
  15. Don´t postpone trying to reach goals to the next day. There is no perfect timing and you will never do it, if you don´t act now.
  16. Never Give-up.
    There are many times when we feel defeated and without hope. But by constantly working on yourself, you will be able to be confident and believe in your abilities.
  17. Do you deserve to believe in yourself?
    YES. YES. YES. YES, you deserve to believe in yourself, your strength, your abilities and your power to recover.

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{ 8 comments… read them below or add one }

Micheal January 22, 2012 at 5:15 pm

yea…the 16th point..NEVER GIVE UP .. thats what i believe in..Go do it , dont Expect the results..


Anne-Sophie January 23, 2012 at 9:11 am

so true, Michael.


John Cina January 22, 2012 at 5:54 pm

Be Confident , Be positive and never give… this is how to live a successful life :)


Anne-Sophie January 23, 2012 at 9:02 am

This is fantastic advice, John!


Lauren February 7, 2012 at 5:43 pm

Thank you for this article and I love the points that you have raised. I especially like the idea of imagining myself as a recovered person and what that would look like. I find it very helpful to ‘channel’ the spirit of the recovered Me and imagine the steps to become her and live her life now.

I have just found your site and its wonderful and has so many inspiring articles. Thank you for helping me today when I am feeling particularly disheartened. I now have a renewed hope and positivity.


Anne-Sophie February 7, 2012 at 7:00 pm

Dear Lauren, thank you SO much for your wonderful comment. If you need any additional help, I am here for you. You are an amazing, courageous person and you can recover! Yes, think of yourself as being recovered and work on this dream. I made it come true, so YOU can too!!!! Life is phenomenal once you are able to let go of your eating disorder and I will guide you on the journey towards loving yourself and appreciating life. Lots of love!


Becky Henry February 8, 2012 at 12:07 am

Great tips for all of us and they are all easier said than done. I love this list and think that it is worth printing and posting somewhere to look at everyday until these all become regular habits!

I really can relate to this one: “# 16 Never Give-up.
There are many times when we feel defeated and without hope. But by constantly working on yourself, you will be able to be confident and believe in your abilities.” When I was writing my book I was tempted to give up so many times. Pretty much bi-weekly, sometimes even weekly. I knew that these families were counting on me to get this book done. And, I knew that if I quit…it was one more way that ED won and I was NOT going to allow ED to take one more thing from any of us.

Thank you Anne Sophie!
Becky Henry
Hope Network, LLC


Anne-Sophie February 9, 2012 at 1:07 pm

Thank you so much for your comment, Becky. I agree, it is always harder to implement tips into your daily life. It definitely takes a lot of work.
I can totally sympathise with you losing hope while writing an important book. However, it is always vital to have the bigger picture in mind. You are right that you have helped and will help so many people and your message needs to be out there. I am glad you never gave up! You are an inspiration, Becky.
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